high school advice #WishIKnew

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𝟎𝟎 :: 𝐢 𝐧 𝐭 𝐫 𝐨 𝐝 𝐮 𝐜 𝐭 𝐢 𝐨 𝐧 ;

ꫝꫀꪶꪶꪮ ꪑꪊꪀᥴꫝ𝕜ⅈꪀડ

         today’s blog is about the ups and downs

         of high school, the rights and lefts (*ahe-

         m* the many, 𝑚𝑎𝑛𝑦 lefts) <this is why i’m

          not permitted to drive until the age of 67

          T^T > trust me honey, i’ve been through it

         all which is why i thought to share what i

          wish somebody would have warned me a-

         bout before i jumped head-first, unarmed

          into shark infested waters.

         𝐞 𝐧 𝐣 𝐨 𝐲 , 𝐥 𝐨 𝐯 𝐞 𝐥 𝐢 𝐞 𝐬 ~

𝟎𝟏 :: 𝐟 𝐚 𝐢 𝐥 𝐮 𝐫 𝐞 ? 𝐢 𝐭 ’ 𝐬   𝟏 𝟎 𝟎 %   𝐨 𝐤 ;

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        one bad mark does not define who you ar-

        e. it does not define your intellect or your

         potential. it’s merely a minor setback and

         how you choose to overcome it is what s-    

         ets you apart from the rest.

        all those successful people out there we-

        re not born successful, they struggled li-

        ke hell. winners aren’t those who never

        fail. winners are those who never quit. so

        keep going. push through. push yourself

         enough, but not to a breaking point.

        depending on the way you view failure, d-

         epending on the way you learn from it, it

         will lead to your success.

        never be embarrassed to struggle. there is

         absolutely no shame in working hard to g-

        et to where you want to be. if it wasn’t for

        the struggle, you wouldn’t have the stren-

        gth.

        in the end, you want to be able to say that

        you did all you could. that you gave it your

        best shot. that you tried your hardest.

        imagine failure as a battle. winning a battle

        means nothing if you lose the war. battles

        are meant to test you. with every one you

         lose, take the opportunity to gain experie-

        nce, consult your advisors, change your t-

        actics until you know the battlefield like t-

        he back of your hand. until you have no o-

        ther option but to kick booty and win.

        so go on, win the war, make me proud.

        good luck, soldier.

𝟎𝟐 :: 𝐢 𝐭 ’ 𝐬   𝐨 𝐤   𝐭 𝐨   𝐬 𝐚 𝐲   𝐧 𝐨 ;

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         the worst thing you can do in any career

          is saying yes to something you don’t want

          to do. whether half-heartedly or not, you

         aren’t hurting anybody but yourself.

         you are not anyone’s slave or lap dog. you

         are your own person. you don’t have to s-

         ay yes no matter how much they guilt trip

         or blackmail you, no matter how many ti-

         mes they tell their sob stories.

         with every relationship in your life, you m-

         ust make sure a big, chunky red line is dr-

         awn clearly because a lot of the time that

          ‘yes’ you’re dishing out, thinking it won’t

         affect you negatively is a silent invitation

          for people to step on you and use you to

          their advantage.

         just last semester i was slapped with a 50

         % on an exam because the girl next to me           

          wouldn’t stop kicking and pushing her pa-

          per towards me. although i never gave her

         answers, i should have still told her no af-

         ter she told me “we’ll turn to each other if

         either of us need help” which translates t-

          o “i know you studied but i didn’t so you

          are going to help me out”

         what scared me was that people were go-

         ing to think i was mean and not “chill” sin-

         ce the girl was well known and many liked

         her. and to add to that, she was a year ol-

         der.

         how i got over it?

         i completely disregarded what people th-

         ought of me. saying yes will not make th-

         em respect you any more, it actually has

          the opposite affect. so stand your ground

         and let nobody tell you otherwise.

         and the next time the same girl told me to

         help (which was during the final ಠ_ಠ) i sa-

          id no and everything turned out alright.

𝐬 𝐮 𝐛 𝐭 𝐨 𝐩 𝐢 𝐜 :: 𝐩 𝐞 𝐞 𝐫   𝐩 𝐫 𝐞 𝐬 𝐬 𝐮 𝐫 𝐞 ;

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         yes, it will happen. you will get offered th-

          ings...bad things. because high schoolers

          are whacky pigeons. just tell the idiot with

          the plastic bag no and/or just walk away.

         sometimes it’s inevitable, but try not to p-

         ut yourself in a situation if you know there

         is a chance it might happen.

         giving someone your work, hard earned

          money to ‘borrow’ supplies, etc. if it belo-

          ngs to you, then they are in no way entitl-

         ed to it no matter how many times they t-

         ell you ‘stop being such a *insert word h-

          ere*’ or ‘it’s no big deal just *insert words

          here*’

         life lesson: if you can’t say no, walk aw-

         ay (or run). just know that there are pe-

         ople around you who are more than h-

         appy to help than hurt.

𝟎𝟑:: 𝐬 𝐨 𝐦 𝐞   𝐰 𝐡 𝐨 𝐥 𝐞 𝐬 𝐨 𝐦 𝐞 :tm:   𝐟 𝐫 𝐢 𝐞 𝐧 𝐝 𝐬;

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         speaking of helpful people, it’s important

         to establish drama-free, all-around good

         friends who are going to you and

          love you for who you are and not who th-

          ey want you to be.

         people who don’t vibe with you, just don’t

          vibe with you. leave it at that, especially

          when not everybody’s going to like you.

         good friends won’t try to change you to fit

         them better. fitting in with those who you

         have to change yourself for will end up e-

         xhausting you in the end. therefore, you

         on’t be happy and i want you to be happy.

         it’s essential for a long and healthy life.

         i’m not saying you have to find your pers-

         on or group right away. not at all. it took

          my whole 16 years of existence to find my

         person. just the wait is worth it

          in the end. ;)

𝐬 𝐮 𝐛 𝐭 𝐨 𝐩 𝐢 𝐜 :: 𝐭 𝐨 𝐱 𝐢 𝐜   𝐟 𝐫 𝐢 𝐞 𝐧 𝐝 𝐬 𝐡 𝐢 𝐩 𝐬 ;

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         toxic people are those who repeatedly dr-

         ain your energy and like to always speak

         of themselves and their problems. they’re

          those who belittle your achievements and

         put down what you’re proud of. all in all, t-

         hey make you feel bad about yourself.

        when you befriend someone, it’s not a si-

        mple task to see their true colors. in fact,

         you don’t quite realize it until later on.

        so before befriending someone, observe

        how they speak and act towards others, t-

        heir body language, stance, etc. because

         it’s most likely how they’re going to treat

         you.

        am i asking you to be a stalker...? (･ω･)

        possibly.

        key fact to : good friends don’t

         bring you down. and if they do, then they

        aren’t friends at all.

        you are the CEO of your life. hire, fire, and

        promote accordingly.

        and sometimes you are the toxic person,

         the mean person, the negative person yo-

        u’re looking to push away. check yourself.

         sometimes you’re the problem.

         but that doesn’t make you less worthy. co-

        ntinue to grow and check yourself. contin-

        ue to motivate yourself. the mistakes you

         make are opportunities. look at them. use

        them. own them. grow from them. then m-

        ove on. be better. do better. you’re human.

        it’s ok.

𝟎𝟒 :: 𝐤 𝐧 𝐨 𝐰   𝐲 𝐨 𝐮 𝐫   𝐰 𝐨 𝐫 𝐭 𝐡  

𝐭 𝐡 𝐞 𝐧   𝐚 𝐝 𝐝   𝐭 𝐚 𝐱 ;

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        you’re not replaceable and i mean that in

        the humblest way possible. find your wor-

        th within yourself. never convince someo-

        ne to see your worth. if they can’t see it on

        their own, they don’t deserve you.

        you deserve more than forced conversati-

        ons and being pushed to the background.

        you deserve more than cancelled plans a-

        nd no replies. you deserve more than only

        when it’s convenient for them.

        if they single you out and make you feel

        unwanted, do yourself a favor and leave. if

        you don’t know your own worth and value,

        don’t expect someone else to calculate it

        for you.

        you are brilliant. don’t let anyone tell you

         otherwise. don’t ever let anyone treat you

        less than human. no matter the race, gen-

        der, sexuality, etc.

         and if you let them treat you that way bec-

        ause you love them, then i’m sorry to bre-

        ak it to you, but it’s one sided love.

        never make someone a priority when all y-         

         ou are to them is an option. you are worth

        more than second thoughts and maybes.          

         of course, people have their own struggles

        and it’s 100% ok to try to help them, but

        their problems don’t give them a free

        to bully others. it’s not ok to bully their fri-

        ends.

         you deserve the love you keep trying to g-

         ive everyone else. stay away from people

         that make you think you’re hard to love.

        you’re not.

𝟎𝟓 :: 𝐛 𝐥 𝐨 𝐜 𝐤   𝐨 𝐮 𝐭   𝐭 𝐡 𝐞   𝐡 𝐚 𝐭 𝐞 𝐫 𝐬 ;

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        you can’t please everyone. you can’t make

        people understand, validate, love, like, and

        accept you. you can’t control them. you’ll

         die trying.

        have confidence in who you are. trust you-

        rself. do your thing and don’t care if they l-

        ike it because in the end, only your opinion

        is going to matter.

         what you tell yourself is how you’re going

        to grow. don’t stunt it. let yourself experie-

        nce life, failure, opportunities. don’t bring

        yourself down. don’t prove them right.

        if you want to wear pencil skirts and blou-

        ses, go for it. hoodies and leggings? rock

        it. full face of make up? perfect. no make

        up? amazing.

        i am the girl who wore blazers and high h-

        eels to school despite the looks i got. des-

        pite the fact that i looked like some CEO

         out of a k-drama. i was so out of place. st-

        ill am. and i’m proud of it because i told m-

        yself every day that i was going to dress in

        the same style i saw myself wearing in ten

        years. because it reminded me of my goa-

        ls and dres was something i loved

         to do anyway.

         i visualized my highest self and started s-

        howing up as her. appearance was my fir-

        st step and everything else followed.

        it’s none of your business what people say

        about you. what is your business is how y-

        ou speak to yourself.

        do what makes you feel good and confid-

        ent. you’re in high school. start building y-

        ourself now and figuring out what you like

        so you brush off criticism in the future.

𝟎𝟔 :: 𝐨 𝐮 𝐭 𝐫 𝐨 ;

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        i know i wrote a lot so i stopped short. i h-

        ope this helped and encouraged some of

         you since many are going into high school

        in need of advice.

         here’s a munchkin cat to brighten your day

        ~

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