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        ━━━ 01 june 2021

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        Hello! This is Dale again, and I'm here for my

        second #agassis blog. I've chosen a segment

        that offers a perspective on dramas and themes

        through personal circumstances; through my

        eyes. The topic tackled in this blog mainly

        centers around psychological manipulation.

        I recently watched my very first Thai series and

        I'm extremely pleased with the experience,

        unlike my J-drama one. God forbid I ever want

        to go near Repeat again... Anyway, I finished the

        first season of Girl from Nowhere and it was

        definitely... something...

Title: Girl from Nowhere

Country: Thailand

Episodes: 13

Run time: 46 minutes

Year: 2018

Summary:

Nanno, a girl without any background information,

transfers to different school and exposes students

and staff for their lies and dirty secrets.

Nanno is probably the baddest bitch I've seen in my

life so far; she's bad AND she's a bitch. This series

was a very very psychological one and it made me

think a lot about what I would do in her victims'

stead. I would yeet my very own self off Earth,

thank you very much.

She's a master manipulator and one never to be

messed with. She's karma herself and while

various characters, such as the predator in the

first episode, deserved to be punished, I do not

condone her ways. All of her victims were sinners,

yes, but she pushed them all to their limits. She

says that she "didn't do anything" multiple times

throughout the series, implying that she has

nothing to do with the crime her toy commited. In

fact, she does.

Every one of us have thought of doing something

immoral or socially unacceptable. It's human nature

and that is exactly what Nanno wants to prove. That

human beings are capable of doing evil when the

right buttons are pushed. She tested these buttons

herself. Nanno tempts people to side with the

wrong until things go uncontrollably godawful that

they ruin lives and relationships, and ultimately

recieve the karma for their actions (obviously that

of Nanno's temptation).

Nanno cleverly manipulates her emotions to, well,

eventually manipulate people's. She's very sneaky,

calculative, and she's able to predict their reaction.

She appeals to your conscience and humanity to

turn you against yourself and get you to think like

she does. She knows your weakness and inner

desires and uses it against you, only for you to

tear yourself down, and she's able to do this

through personally forming a bond with you or

establishing herself as someone you desperstely

need. It's a scary sight to witness but...

Why exactly do manipulators manipulate people?

I've researched a little bit and what I've learnt so

far is that there are a few reasons why. It includes

background or childhood milieu. Manipulators

are made through natural circumstances such as

how they were treated growing up. It involves

trauma and an extreme feeling of being held down

and controlled by someone of greater power. They

learn it because it becomes engrained as a normal

event, and eventually, they will apply this to various

relationships they end up forming. It's what they've

been exposed to.

Manipulation often comes from a highly competitive

environment where people struggle to gain power

over the other, essentially forcing one to the

fight to avoid being the prey amongst a sea of

hungry predators. It hurts manipulators to lose

control of the situation or not have it in the first

place at all. It tears their ego and triggers a trauma

or an unpleasant memory of some sort. It comes

with the fear of inferiority as they've known the

feeling of abuse, therefore they project their

frustration through hurting others and exposing

them to an environment they were once in.

Manipulators want people to share their pain;

additionally, these actions are learned behaviors

through time. Our reality is different from theirs as

theirs is what puts people in torment. And they

torment people because they're terrified of being

looked down upon hence, as we've established,

they want to be feared in the first place. Basically,

it's a learned instinct of protecting themselves

from what has hurt them, what is hurting them, and

what will possibly hurt them. Vulnerability, change

and power brings out the best and worst in people:

the darker side of human nature.

Manipulation comes in ways that you might not

notice. This could also be helpful as a reference

for future purposes; here's a few verbal examples.

(talking you out of your joys in life)

"You're not going to be able to do this, this is too

hard for you. Save yourself the trouble and stop."

(gaslighting)

"No, you're wrong. You had it in your hands

when we were walking together, I gave it to you."

"When did I say that? I never said that. You're just

making things up at this point."

(guilt-tripping)

"Why can't you just appreciate that I want to keep

you safe at all times?"

"If you leave, you're going to ruin what we've saved

throughout the years."

(twisting your words and exaggerating)

"Didn't you say you hated them because they

made you do all the work for that project?"

(invalidating your feelings)

"You think you have it bad? I got fired from my

job this morning and my wallet got stolen. You

being sad over that is nothing."

I think I've said a lot of my thoughts already but

I'll add a few more points and conclude this blog.

Obviously, manipulation is present everywhere, but

as someone who has never been in an openly

manipulative (?) relationship, I can only say the

negatives from a limited standpoint because it's

not at all socially accepted and I don't know the

perspectives of all parties involved.

From a personal viewpoint though, what Nanno

does is wrong for so many reasons. Firstly,

psychological manipulation and emotional abuse

is not accepatable and never will be. Secondly,

she's ruining so many things. Of course, I get that

they've done wrong, especially the teacher in the

first episode (God forbid that man deserved to

roam the Earth freely), but for those students who

were fueled by temporary, insignificant, and very

much juvenile desires, Nanno's absence would

have been much more appreciated than her

interference.

Expanding on earlier points, having her around

plants insecurities to students and pushes them

to do things they never even once thought of. She

tempts them to do something even they consider

immoral and takes no responsibility for the role

she played once they've left much to ruins. She

blames the course of events as a product of the

student's own decisions, which I guess is true, but

even then, her role is much too great.

If I were to be in a victim of Nanno's position, I

would destroy myself over it too. Nanno controls

her emotions so well and caters to what people

want to see in her. Of course, they'd believe her

over me. I mean, I probably won't even get myself

in trouble in the first place though, given that I

would instead do everything in my power to not

get involved in suspicious shit. I'd say the students

were just too damn needy than necessary. Horny

mfs.

I do think Nanno's capable of something much

greater though. She has shown signs of it. In ep 8,

I got super excited for both her and TK because it

felt like they genuinely enjoyed each other's

company and TK was such a gentle person. Nanno

seemed like she had a great time whenever she was

with him. But then again, that could also be her

manipulating the audience because, as we've seen

before, this girl's too powerful. By the end of the

episode though, I was seriously convinced she had

some sort of feelings for him.

It showed that she was capable of loving people,

but I think she's way too smart for it and knows

very well that TK's going to be her weakness.

Needless to say, it's one of my favorite episodes

in the drama.

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I'm off to watch the second season because I've

read it's quite interesting. I seriously love Nanno's

character but, realistically, we all know that's not

the case.

There isn't much more for me to say in this blog

so thank you for lending me much time out of your

day just to read this. I appreciate it lots, and I

hope you have a great rest of your day. Please stay

healthy and safe at all times!

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